'Feedback' is not mandatory

Submitted by Max Rosenthal
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I recently learned that the exact phrase, "Mind If I give you some feedback?" does not necessarily need to be recited verbatim. :oops: Will you please share some alternative opening lines?
Submitted by John Hack on Sunday August 24th, 2008 9:22 am

Any question that makes it clear you want to give them feedback, and allows them the option of saying "No" works.

- Can we talk about your presentation?

- Would you like some feedback on that?

Don't worry about being repetitive. Folks will figure out what you're doing, which is a good thing.

John

Submitted by Jon Pappas on Sunday August 24th, 2008 10:09 am

Since you are in San Diego, "Dude, feedback?"

Mark said one of his clients actually uses this phrasing. It's totally appropriate with some people.

Submitted by Tom Waltz on Sunday August 24th, 2008 7:51 pm

For peers, I loved one that Mike had at the conference:
"Would you be willing to consider an observation?"

Submitted by Mike Hansen on Sunday August 24th, 2008 8:44 pm

All of the above are good. A quick reminder that it is critical that whatever words you decide on, you always say them the same way for both affirming and corrective feedback.

For instance, for corrective FB I used to say “Can I tell you how you can suck less?” But now I just use the standard line.

Enjoy

-Mike

ok, that last part was a joke. Couldn’t help myself :)